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If
you have a feeling you don't like.......stop resisting it.
Try a new way?
The KEY is not
how you will feel, but HOW you will deal with
these feelings.
But remember these
feelings in themselves are not bad and they are
only temporary.
We need to repeat again
and again:
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pain is not in the feelings but IN
OUR RESISTANCE TO THESE FEELINGS.
In our running away from them.
In our fear
and dread
of them.
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The secret lies in taking
a different approach to these feelings and
desires and in following a simple way to transmute
them.
Here is the first very
general exercise you need to practice.
1.
Accept you're
temporarily feeling 'empty'
But, right now- why turn it into a terrible thing?
It is OK.
It is natural.
However, you do not have
to act upon it.
The feeling/ the craving is
like a recalcitrant child.
It will calm
down as you observe it and embrace it without
making it wrong....
....With warmth and
kindness.
With infinite patience
ALLOW yourself to
open up and embrace how you feel. Know it will
only last a few minutes ..and then be gone.
2.
Put the feeling or craving in context.
Always, keep at the back of your mind, that this
feeling of feeling crap is only temporary
and it is not you.
Like a mild head cold.
You
don't get all worried and anxious with fear and dread if you
have a mild head cold.
Yes, it IS annoying and
uncomfortable - but you don't make a big deal out
of it because you KNOW it will be all gone in a
few days.
It is only...... passing
through.
Like a cloud in the sky.
As you just watch this
empty feeling.....coming and going, you
will get the direct experience that you are
not this feeling. It is something that
'enters' you and then 'exits'.
And if you keep doing
this, suddenly it will HIT you! Like a direct
revelation!
You'll get the direct
experience that this feeling is really
NOTHING at all.
Nothing!
That it is so
insignificant, so slight and powerless that there
is no bother getting upset or giving in to it.
Like a bolt of light from
Heaven you'll realize it is STUPID, pure STUPID to
start eating all your dead, old, comfort foods
again JUST to get rid of this tiny,
insignificant, powerless nothingness.
3.
Just observe and feel the feeling.
This is the hardest thing
for most of us simply because we are not used to
it.
Stay with this feeling in
your belly....as you realize it's insignificance.
Relax back on your couch
.....put up your feet up! and just watch this
feeling 'playing' it's little game.
Watch how it tries to
suggest that it is more powerful than it really
is! Laugh
......Watch as it 'whispers' suggestions into
your mind....."Go...just have one
cake.....then you can start again next Monday etc"
As you watch it, playing
all it's little games....continue to relax and
have a good laugh
Just be fully aware of what you
are feeling.
Allow it
all............Don't get involved and don't judge
this craving you have to give and eat your old
food..........and as
you continue this positive, non-judgmental
awareness...... just watch your feelings as they CHANGE
......
You will experience these
feelings/cravings for the first time AS THEY
REALLY ARE - pure simple energy.
An actual JOY to
experience.
Nothing
to hate or run away from.
Just
energy in motion.
4.
Kindness
and patience.
In the beginning, please
be kind, patient and
gentle with yourself as you practice this new
technique.
Give yourself plenty of
time. Approach it as a game. it's not life and
death. We want you to enjoy losing weight - and to
do that you need to enjoy learning and applying
these techniques.
What
to do if you REALLY don't care and just WANT to
THAT 'Chocolate cake'!
1.
Again expect to feel like this now and
again.
In fact you will
feel like this many times as you are changing
the habits of a lifetime! But remember even the
most acute craving will only last a few minutes......and
then fade away as your attention is stolen by
something or someone else.
2.
Acknowledge how you are feeling.
This is
important. Realize if you keep feeling like this,
it is quite normal and natural. Don't make a big
deal out of it.
3.
Simply note and affirm to yourself :
This is
fine. It is only my old conditioning coming to
the fore: My old false belief that
my HAPPINESS -my ENJOYMENT - in this
moment is wholly dependent on eating this
old comfort food.
Now - I know it's not.
That was a myth. I'm free!
4.
Stay in the moment.
5. Now, as you stay in the moment -
break off a bit of the chocolate cake - smash it
into tiny pieces and perform the 'Pizza
Experiment' on it. Go deeper and deeper
until there is nothing but energy and empty
space.
Watch now as your
feelings start to change....
6. Now
use this moment to focus on all the
benefits of not eating this old dead food.
In your mind's eye -
celebrate!
See yourself jumping up and down with great
ecstasy. See the pounds of lardy fat melting off
you.....In your mind 's eye.....go through the
entire list of benefits we mentioned earlier.
Everyone of them!
If you can make this as real and as emotional as
possible.....you end up feeling great and
totally energized as you finish the exercise.
So what started as a bad
and acute craving to quit and give up ...will
end up with you feeling healthier, more
relaxed and more focused than ever on
enjoying what you are doing....
Repeat this procedure as often as you feel
necessary.
Remember, in two or
three weeks, there will be no need for it...........
Now
gently refocus your attention on whatever you
were doing beforehand......
You'll find more powerful
and advanced techniques that may be personally
more suitable to you in our comprehensive,
42 day Weight-loss Program
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