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You do not want to
give up smoking now because you are terrified of how you will
feel when you stop. |
If you have given up before, you will
know that you will experience certain feelings, certain sensations in
your body.
You will feel empty, deprived and
insecure.
You will feel even lonely, as if you have lost an 'old friend' (more like a
wicked witch in
disguise!).
It is important to
realize that when you give up smoking under this method,
you WILL still experience these same feelings and bodily sensations - but
it is at this point that this method differs radically from the old
way.
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The old way said that the secret to
success was 'old fashioned will-power'.
It acknowledged that you would feel
lousy when you stopped and that the only way to succeed was to
endure this unavoidable suffering.
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It advised you to keep your mind off
your desire to smoke by changing your routine or by substituting
something else for the cigarette. |
It promised you that if you had 'ENOUGH'
willpower and 'fought' off all the terrible feelings when they came
- with time and patience, you would finally defeat the enemy - and
succeed.
And many people did use that method and
succeed - but at what price ?
They have linked forever in most people's
mind the idea that giving up smoking and pain are inexplicably
linked.
But I hear you say : "They are. I have tried
to give up before and it was hell".
I do not disagree with you.
Giving up
smoking can be hell.
But the hell - the pain - does not come from giving
up smoking but how you deal with the feelings you get when you give
up smoking.
Please underline the following in your mind:
When you give up smoking, the feeling itself is not bad. It's
only a temporary, RESTLESS, EMPTY feeling.
The pain that
people associate with giving up smoking comes from RESISTING -
from trying to deny or fight the feeling you get when you realize you
can't smoke.
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KEY
IDEA |
When you give
up smoking the 'feeling' itself is not bad. The pain comes from worrying
about and trying to resist or push this feeling away because you believe
it is 'bad' or 'unbearable'.
This is one of the most important concepts
in this course.
When you give up smoking, again and again you will get
that strong feeling which simply translates itself as : 'I want a
cigarette.'
This is a
real and tangible feeling. We all know it. It is OK. It is
valid.
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