Here are some of the most
commonly-asked questions we are asked. Please study each
one carefully as they will help to increase your
understanding of the main principles involved in giving up
smoking.
Q: Instead
of giving up entirely can I just not cut down
?
Why ?
Why would you just want
to cut down ?
That means that you would still like the
opportunity to smoke now and then.
If you feel like that it means that at some level, you
still strongly believe that smoking is enjoyable.
You
still believe that the
actual act of smoking is directly responsible for this
enjoyment.
By trying to pretend to
yourself that you can allow yourself to simply cut down, it
means that you will remain catch in the illusion that
smoking is inherently enjoyable.
( In fact by cutting down and
spacing out your cigarettes you will, in fact look forward
more to each cigarette and actually increase the illusion
that the enjoyment is inherent in them. To refresh yourself
on this lesson refer back to Step 4. )
It also means, that at some
level, you have not faced up to the widespread 'brainwashing' that you
will have to face physical and mental agony if you stop
completely.
In the end, what is keeping you smoking is FEAR.
A fear we ALL know.
The fear that we will never be
able to enjoy life or handle pressure without our little
crutch or pleasure.
The fear that we will have to
endure a long traumatic period in order to get free and...... and most
of all, the fear that we might never be free.
Please do not underestimate
the power of these false beliefs.
If you feel - 'No I will
not give up smoking - I will just cut down on the number I
smoke.' - it may sound convincing to you, but what it really
means is that you do not want to face these illusions.
You are still terrified of the
feelings you believe you will have when you give
up.
Fine.
Congratulate yourself for being honest.
Remember it is all right to have these beliefs.
Do not hate or criticize yourself for still having
them. They have been deeply ingrained in our society for
ages, so there is no blame for holding them.
Remember the law: What you
resist persists. So if you still have these fears, do not
fight them in your mind.
That is the old way.
Just allow
them. Beware of them.
By just bringing them to the
surface and observing them and not identifying with them,
they will rise to the top and evaporate of their own
accord.
Be patient with yourself.
We all believed that to change
our beliefs and feelings the best thing surely was to try
to get rid of them, change them, push them away and then to
criticize and punish ourselves for having them.
But what we were really doing
was actually increasing their power by focusing more energy
and power on them by fighting them.
The law is simple:
Resistance
effects the opposite of it's intent.
Face this belief but do not fall into
the trap of believing that cutting down on the number you
smoke will solve your problem.
You will simply remain locked in
another prison of illusion. |