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SIMPLE ADVICE So, let me repeat, for the first few days as a non-smoker allow these empty, insecure feelings. Accept that for a while, you will feel empty and fed up. You will also temporarily feel as if you are been deprived of something that is vital for your pleasure. Fine. Allow them all. Also, allow the slight physical aggravation that your body will undergo during this period. It is simply helping itself to get rid of..... the poison that has been destroying it. When the feelings come, instead of
bemoaning the fact that you can't smoke why not say to
yourself:
Luxuriate
in it's death
There is no need to feel guilty about gloating over it. After all, it has been gloating over you for enough years and the only way it can ever gloat over you again is if you light another cigarette.
A HAPPY NON-SMOKER You are now about to become a happy non-smoker. Remember, don't get anxious or uptight about this. It is not a final examination where failure equals eternal doom. It is an adventure of discovery and success. Soon you will smoke your last cigarette. Remember, from that moment on - you are a non-smoker.
Yes, that very moment.
Do not say to people: 'Oh, I'm trying to give up smoking - Say: I am a non-smoker. You are NOW the same as all the people in the world who don't smoke whether they stopped ten years ago or never smoked at all. This is important. There is no waiting involved. As we have said, the difficulty in giving up smoking is not the physical aggravation caused by nicotine withdrawal -- but the doubt, the uncertainty, the waiting to become a non-smoker. The 'waiting' for the terrible withdrawal PANGS and PAINS that we were promised or warned would come. The fear that we are too weak and that the desire for a cigarette will prove too overpowering for us. So if you are waiting for this great pain and suffering..... you will be waiting for the whole of your life. They won't come, because they don't exist. So there is nothing to
wait for. The slight physical aggravation and the temporary, empty, lonely feelings that you will experience for the first few weeks when you give up ARE IT.
There is nothing else to face or tolerate. Simply face these temporary, slight feelings you will get when you stop. Throw into the dustbin all the old folktales that these feelings are horrible monsters that you have to fight continuously. These are only disguises that these feelings wear so that they can scarce you out of facing them and discovering their true puny nature. Like little children at Halloween with their monster masks. So face the feelings. Put them in context and then just feel them as they really are. That is all you have to do. You are NOW a non-smoker. What else is there to wait for? You do not have to wait till tomorrow, next week, or next month. Simply remember two golden rules..........
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